To Be Or Not To Be… the Geek who dates a single mom
Would you date a a single mom?
This is the $64,000 question, isn’t it? I was asked this same question by my friends. And I remembered, I even asked this of myself. So, what’s the answer?
The answer is you!!!
This is purely your prerogative… and guess what? It’s ALSO her decision. That’s right. It takes two to tango, doesn’t it?
My friend, Alan, dated a single mom. I’ll give his point of view in just a moment. I dated a single mom and had a relationship with her. I’ll give my point of view on the matter and ultimately, as previously mentioned, the answer is you!!!
First thing first Geekness; before you do go out on a date with a single mom, you must first run an attraction strategy [more will be posted about the attraction strategy in this blog very soon – please bookmark this blog]
You have to be attracted to her in the first place. Your attraction strategy is mentally and biological processed through the 3 sensory perception: visual, auditory and kinaesthetic. You see, hear or feel the attraction to the woman first.
If there is an attraction there then the possibility of a date can be considered. Remember, she too must also see, hear and feel the attraction to go on a date with you.
This blog post is about “Would You Date a Single Mom?” not about falling in love with her or considering a committed relationship. Those are topics for another post. There are more strategies to run in order for you to get to a committed relationships. [Sign up to our FREE membership so you can get tips and hints on such topics via newsletters]
What Alan Said
I remembered what my friend Alan said to me, after he hooked up with a pretty lady on a ocean cruise. Clearly, there was an attraction for him. Then after the euphoria cleared away and after the ship had docked. He said “I don’t want to pay for someone else’s mistake”.
My friend never seen the woman’s child and so perhaps he’s statement was premature. Also, the thought of becoming an instant father could have scared the living daylights out of him. Who knows? We never talked about this any further.
My Experience
I met a single mom. Went out on several dates. I fell in love with her. She was very, very attractive. A head turner. Everywhere we went guys turned their heads to catch a glimpse of her. I was genuinely proud to be the one walking with her.
Clearly, she felt the attraction too. She went out of town with me. She even brought me to her home to meet her family… and her 7yr old son.
This was when I felt the experience unlike I felt when I dated just single girls. I had to feel and process my particular ‘love strategy’. The strategy that questioned me about love as a commitment, a decision to be in a relationship, and not just enjoying the emotion of ‘love’ (human love).
The thought of being an instant father scared the sh!t out of me. The thought of being an instant step father scared me even more. Immediately, the thought of relating to some other guy’s son was a dark cloud moment for me. I didn’t know what to do. I had no experience. I had no point of reference.
I loved the girl. Yes!
Did I loved the girl and her son? This remained a question mark in my mind. My left brain mind. Since I had not data which to process I knew that the answer had to come from right brain, and gut feeling. This is a matter for the heart, not the mind. Put your heart to good use.
What Will Geeks Do?
So… for all the awesome Geeks out there. Remember this… love, relationships and commitment cannot be processed by logic, algorithms and data structures; because this ‘thing’ goes above left brain style thinking.
It takes FEELING.
You must FEEL what is right for you.
This post is NOT about whether it is right or wrong for the Man Geek to date a single mom. It is about knowing, feeling, respecting and appreciating what feels right for you.
If you happen to go out on a date with a single mom:
- Thank her for her time and energy
- Thank her for being a mother to her child(ren)
- Thank her for her love to bringing life into the world
If you do want to pursue a committed relationship with her:
- Get to know her
- Get to know her child(ren)
- Get to know yourself
- Get to know how you FEEL about yourself when you are with ‘them’.
- Allow your intuition to be your guidance system (not your friends, family, or your left brain)
- Thank yourself for the journey you had and will have.
- Love and be kind to yourself
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